One day we were born and one day we all have to die. We may physically look alike but no two individuals are exactly the same. There are certain factors which distinguishes me, you and others.
Education is one such factor which plays a very crucial role in the development of any human being. Every parent wishes to provide good education to his/her ward. Since we are living in a competitive world and it important to have better education.
Our parents spent much on our education from the very beginning, they sent us to a good school and college. They provided us all the better means they could possibly do.
Good it is, our parents really care for us.
Indian parents are comparatively over caring however exceptions are always there. In india, parents try to shape the career of their children according to their own wish, like my parents wanted me to become an engineer and they succeed in doing so.
Next important thing is the age 25. 25 is the age where every human being desperately wants to achieve success and be independent. But Indian scenario is slightly different here. In our society 25 is the age where our parents wants us to get marry and that too by their own choice i.e where they want us to marry. Especially girls are often forced to marry at this young age in india.
But our dear parents don’t keep this in their mind that their children too deserve some freedom. Parents swore their children, they blackmail them and keep telling them we did a lot for you, now it’s your turn. You don’t listen to us. These are some of the most common techniques indian parents use to console their children at the age of 25 to get marry.
I still don’t understand if I’m wrong or parents are right.
Do they really shape our careers or ruin our lives?
Hope I will understand it someday.
Interesting article! We should honour our mother and father: they have raised us and provided for us. Every culture is the same in this respect, that parents normally love and care for their children and want the best for them. (I say “normally” – sadly, there are exceptions of bad parents.) However, I believe by the time we are 25, we should make our own decisions. Parents can guide and influence and suggest, but whether career or marriage partners, the final decision should be the person’s choice. Parents may continue to encourage and support their grown children, but not manipulate or blackmail them.
❤️carmen
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Couldn’t have said it better miss Carmen!
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😑all parents aren’t the same..something same has happened to me!
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I say…. If you find the ‘right’ woman and fall head over heals then marry her! If not, then keep on a moving along! 😉 Good luck, my friend.
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☺️☺️ Hope for the best
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Go beyond what society and your parents have expected. Otherwise, you are a secondhand human being… a shadow. My parents wanted me to have all kinds of children. However, the world is dreadfully overpopulated. My wife and i never had kids and we are glad. You are not your parents’ investment unless you let that be! Life is too short to live their life for THEM! 🙂
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I agree with you sir ☺️
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I agree wo=ith Tom to some extent. 25 is the age when one is big enough to decide for her/his own life. While we should respect and love our parents, we also should make it clear to them that every human being has the right to choose the way of life… 🙂
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😥Hope they understand this thing.
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Well I guess this is the story of every individual almost 😉 All I can say is respect your parents and listen to them when you feel they are correct and you need to consider their advice, but in-case your heart does not agree at what they are saying, please listen to your heart do not forcefully do something then you would regret for doing it. Career and life-partner must be your choice is what I personally feel and believe. Well of-course looking into the options they are giving you but agree only if your heart agrees to it.
You have to fight your battle for yourself and you h ave to learn from your own mistakes to as it is your life and you have the rights to choose for yourself. Be strong but at the same time be polite to them, make them understand your point of view. It would take time but sooner or later they will understand.
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😊😊i wish they could understand the soonest possible.
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When the time is right things will fall in its place 🙂 All the best keep trying but make sure in the good way, we all tend to become rebels with our parents… But just be calm 🙂 Parents forget the fact that when they were young they too were standing in our shoe and we have to remind them in a polite way that it 😉
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😇😇 thank you for the kind words you share. I will try my best to make a way out without hurting their sentiments.
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Your welcome 😊 All the best 😉
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I just turn 25 too. But unlike India, I think Philippines has more laid-back output to marriage and career. Or I’m just really insensitive so I ignore the pleas of my parents to getting married soon.
But in the grand scheme of life, isn’t it more better if instead of following our parents, we follow our hearts in choosing our partners.
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😊 i honestly agree with your opinion..! let’s see what happens in our case,i will let you know.
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I somehow agree to this. Though in my case, my parents didn’t have to blackmail me because I was the one who asked them that it’s time 😂. But it’s the exact scenario for my sis-in-law. She is 26 and our parents are getting crazy 😜
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😀😀😀Indian parents are just incredible.
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Yes they are. Still they are the most caring in the whole world. I am not generalizing, but Indian moms are Indian moms 😄 you can’t find another anywhere.
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i honestly agree with you. but sometimes……..!
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I understand your feelings!
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The stereotype of our society has a great part in influencing our ideology. Our parents were brought in a society with a stereotype of not letting us choose our partners! It’s difficult to change their mentality now. But luckily you and I are brought up in this current society with a different stereotype that says choosing our own partner is good. Even if we convince our parents, because of their brought up, deep down inside they woukd think it’s not right. But brother, you and I would let our children free. It’s not their fault nor us. It’s the society you should blame!
Nice post there!!
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thank you so much for your words 😇👌
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You are welcome!
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very nice read, thanks for sharing, all the best
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you are always welcome dear
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Indian parents are so good at emotional blackmail!
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Rockstar Indian Parents 😂😂😂
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